Where do we go from here? This question can be asked as an exciting- “whats next?” or it can be asked in the midst of despair- a “what now?”. Jon and I asked this question about 2 years ago- it was a mix of excitement and I wouldn’t say despair but desperation maybe. It was the start of the pandemic and Jon was finishing his master’s program and would need a job and I was finishing my chaplaincy residency and would need a job. This excitement turned a little more desperate as layoffs were happening and all of Jon’s interviews were put on a freeze. We were two people working in the social services- a pastor and a counselor- just starting our lives together. So where did we go? DC. We decided to move to one of the most expensive cities in the US with no jobs- in a pandemic. I had been offered a position that paid me in housing, not a salary and so we decided with free housing it was as much a risk as anywhere else. Luckily it worked out for us- something that still annoys my siblings “ how things just fall into place” for me but it definitely could have been more difficult. Moving to a new city in a pandemic is- well something I don’t recommend. Living on a college campus during a pandemic is something I don’t recommend either but looking back I’m glad we did it. 2 years ago I could have never imagined what our life would be like. And whether you are forced to ask this question or you choose to, you do need an answer if you want to see what might be.
This is the last week of our 4-week sermon series based around curiosity and intentionality. We have asked the questions, Where are you from, Where does it hurt, what do you need and now today we ask where do we go from here? All of these questions imply deep curiosity and care about connecting and understanding someone. This question of where do we go from here is meant to propel us into something new- a new beginning, a new way of thinking, a new challenge. Ruth and Naomi took their pain and grief and decided to forge a new way together. They had different cultures and religions and yet beginning anew together was worth it to them. Ruth could have easily left her mother-in-law because she needed a man to help her survive but she chose to stay with Naomi anyway.
A former boss of mine and pastor, Aisha-Brooks-Johnson writes this about the Ruth/Naomi story- “The story of Ruth and Naomi offers an inside look at grief, loss, and God’s ability to redefine the meaning of family and community. In grief and loss, it is easy to withdraw and handle heavy burdens alone. Grief can be dizzying, leaving one with a multiplicity of emotions. I, too, know the experience of widowhood at a younger age. While a few verses mention the death of a father and two sons, there are thousands of unwritten pages of pain, emotion, grief, and loss in the lives of Naomi, Ruth, and Orpah that we will never know.
Naomi carried an additional burden, knowing her daughters-in-law would have to navigate as single women within a patriarchal society. Naomi’s natural response to the pain is one of fear, anger, and isolation. One daughter-in-law respects Naomi’s wishes and returns to her familial surroundings. The other daughter-in-law, Ruth, does not. Ruth’s response echoes the unending and far-reaching love of God. Ruth’s response is not one of fight or flight but is rooted and grounded in being bound to another. In the face of loss, these family ties are deepened through a spiritual bond of connection, commitment, and community. Ruth is willing to live, worship, work, advocate, walk alongside, and find her earthly resting place with Naomi from this day forward.
We have experienced a lot of death, grief, and loss in the midst of a global pandemic, racial brokenness, economic disparity, and political division. Can you imagine a world in which we took spiritual oaths like the one we find in the book of Ruth? What if we resisted the temptation to fight or flee in the face of grief, pain, and oppression? What if we took these vows with members of our human family? Imagine a member of the human family before you and speak these words aloud to them: By the mercy of God and because of God’s grace, we are bound to one another. Your pain is not your own but is now my pain. The plight of your people is held in my hands and my heart as if they were my own. Where you journey and work, I too, will journey and work alongside you, with God’s help. Where your bones are buried, may I too, find a resting place and declare every earthly resting place sacred in the eyes of God”
I love how Aisha articulates what ruth did to Naomi as taking a vow- making a commitment. We are distinctly aware that we make vows in marriage, in baptism but we also subconsciously make vows all the time- vows of how we will care and love for our children, vows to our professional life- our parents, our friends, the way we treat the earth. Taking vows are part of our spiritual rituals and rhythms that help us order our values and missions as people. This got me thinking a lot about what IPC’s vow is to the community. In the year that I have been your past, I have realized that IPC is different than other churches. Many times, part of a pastor’s job is to use the scripture to teach people why they should want to help the poor, hungry, and oppressed. They use scripture to teach values and morals. But you all are already doing these things- you are motivated by your own spirit within you telling you that you are gifted and able to help those less fortunate. You are already convinced the hard work and sacrifice is worth the gift you will give to someone else. Many churches vow is to encourage their congregants to go out and metaphorically feed the community. But you already do this well. I believe IPC’s vow is to feed you all and the community as a whole so that you all can continue to go out and feed the community. We feed you so you can feed others. Our vow is to give you rest, rejuvenation for your souls, to give you strength and courage, and support. You are already doing the work- you have already listened to the spirit within you telling you to do this work and you have listened. I hope IPC can be the place to help you on that journey, fill you up when you are feeling empty. I hope we can spiritually and emotionally provide what you need for the work ahead.
When we ask this question, “where do we go from here”? we have to keep in mind that this can look many different ways- there is not just 1 mold, 1 answer. Naomi and ruth changed the mold- 2 women making their way on their own. We also see this in Jesus- who came to redefine what it looked like to live faithfully- who came to show how to use a guideline to create faithful living rather than worship the guideline itself. There’s a story in Acts with Peter who is a rule follower and he has a vision in which there are all kinds of unclean animals and a voice tells him to go and kill and eat of them- and he says no Lord, I have never eaten anything unclean and the voice says, “what God has made clean, do not call common”. In this story, we see that the mold is once again changed. God changes the mold.
The main takeaway here is that God asks us to use the resources given to us to do God’s will- making people feel loved. This past month we’ve been particularly talking about how to make people feel loved through showing we care who they are and we care about their story. We wish to know them and to share their burdens. For the past 3 weeks we have been talking about how to do this in our individual lives- how do we make space for other people and their pain- how do we heal our own pain. And today we have been talking about this communally- How does IPC as a community- show people we care who they are and we care about their story. I care about all of you and your stories, as I know you care about each others. So let our answer to the question of where do we go from here be that we are a place where people come and are cared for we are curious about their story and how we can be there for them in their pain. Let this be a place of refuge for the weary and tired. Let this be a place of understanding and empathy. Let this be a place of rejuvenation for the soul. We do this so that all of us can be strengthened to go out that next week and do the good work you have already begun.
So often we create these secular and sacred divides- similar to peter believing what God has called clean was unclean- that what God called sacred Peter thought was not scared. They are much more connected- intertwined. What we do outside of these doors is not disconnected from what we do here on Sundays- it’s all connected. To live out your purpose is to live out your faith. Pastors receive therapy and spiritual direction so that we can come to our congregations and offer spiritual direction to them. In the same way- you are all ministers simply by being created by God. You are all equipped to do this work, this mission and hopefully, you are here each week to refuel so you can go back out. I can’t speak for the whole of IPC although from what I have gathered and observed I think we are on the same page but I wrote a vow to you as what I promise as your pastor.
I vow to make space in myself to hold your pain and suffering. I vow to give you the space for questioning and doubt. I vow to listen to your needs, to do my best to meet them. I vow to encourage you and support you in your endeavors. I vow to respect and provide boundaries for your wholeness and well-being. I vow to help you figure out how your heart’s deep gladness and the world’s greatest needs collide. I vow to journey with you as long as you will allow me.
This is my vow to you and I invite you to either make your own to each other or you can adopt this one as your own. I believe there wouldn’t be much hesitation for many of you in taking this vow to each other and anyone else that seeks refuge here. May we live into this vow together. Amen.