Today’s sermon is about rest. In our text this morning the disciples report back that they’ve done a lot of good work and Jesus says okay time to rest. But the thing is we don’t know how to rest. Not really. I met a few weeks ago with a Georgetown student who is here for the summer program. She is blind, has an anxiety diagnosis, left home for the first time, is taking difficult classes- 3 hour-long classes to be exact- and she revealed she is having panic attacks in class- having trouble breathing and crying but no one can tell because of the glasses she wears. These are summer classes- so already in addition to a normal course load- She was thinking about dropping the class but feels too bad about herself because “she should be able to do it”.
How did we get here? You are 18- in a pandemic- moved to a new city- are blind, have severe anxiety, and find yourself in hell for 3 hours a day and having difficulty giving yourself permission to end this unnecessary pain because why. Because putting yourself last is seen as selfless. It’s seen as being strong. It’s seen as admirable. Achievement is seen as purpose.
If we can learn anything from this pandemic I hope it’s that we don’t have to live this way anymore. This pandemic should show us that we can take a rest and the everything will still be okay. that we can work a lot less, feel a lot less pressure, and still meet everyone’s needs.
Richard Rohr weighs in on this tension in our culture between rest and achievement: “After an optimistic explosion that we call hope, and an ensuing sense of deep safety, comes an experience of deep rest. It’s the verb, I’m told, that is most used by the mystics of all religions: some kind of “resting in God.” All of our striving and our need to perform, climb, and achieve becomes, on some very real level, unnecessary. The gift, the presence, the fullness is already here, now. I can stop all this overproduction and over-proving of myself. That’s Western and American culture. It’s not the Gospel, and yet we have made the Gospel conform to the meritocracy of most cultures.
One thing that got me into men’s work is that I found that males are especially driven by the performance principle. Most males just cannot believe that we could be respected, admired, received, or loved without some level of achievement. So many of us are performers and overachievers to some degree, and we think that only then will we be lovable or acceptable. Even when we “achieve” something with a good day of “performing,” as I often do myself as a type A personality, it is never enough, because it is inherently self-advancing and therefore self-defeating. We might call it “spiritual capitalism.”
In Jesus day we don’t see many stories about achievement being the way one earned love- we see following the rules or being moral or obedient but this earning love by achievement idea is a western idea- one that has spun so far out of control that people think it’s normal to be in pain and misery. The disciples worked but they found purpose more from community, family and providing- but not for getting ahead purposes. Just getting by. But Jesus still thought they needed to rest. The disciples couldn’t have had a more important task- tell the world that there is a God. And even with that – rest was needed. There is no job too important to rest. Love cannot be achieved by more and more achievements.
So How do we rest?- the word in Greek means to refresh. In the text this morning we have 2 clues about how to rest.
1.To find Solitude- a quiet place- away from what you are resting from. Deserted.
2.To eat. Eating was more than just nourishment for the body- it was nourishment for the soul.
Jon and I realized this adds a lot to our life- being able to go out to eat- make good food at home, host people for meals- and our budget reflects this. This is where we splurge. We are going to Spain for our honeymoon because of the free tapas and the siestas- you think I’m joking. We are hoping Spain shows us something more about how to rest. We recently watched the Anthony Bourdain parts unknown episode where they went to Granada and no lie at least on the show they say it’s normal to have a beer and big lunch, have a siesta, and then later at night go out again for a drink and a free tapa. Every day and more on the weekends. I think to myself that can’t be but I’m about to find out.
As pandemic life recedes in the U.S., people are leaving their jobs in search of more money, more flexibility, and more happiness. Many are rethinking what work means to them, how they are valued, and how they spend their time. It’s leading to a dramatic increase in resignations — a record 4 million people quit their jobs in April alone, according to the Labor Department.
Jeremy Golembiewski has ideas about why. Last week, after 26 years in food service, he quit his job as general manager of a breakfast place in San Diego. The pandemic had a lot to do with it.
In the months that followed, Golembiewski’s life changed. He was spending time doing fun things like setting up a playroom in his garage for his two young children and cooking dinner for the family. At age 42, he got a glimpse of what life could be like if he didn’t have to put in 50 to 60 hours a week at the restaurant and miss Thanksgiving dinner and Christmas morning with his family.
“I want to see my 1-year-old and my 5-year-old’s faces light up when they come out and see the tree and all the presents that I spent six hours at night assembling and putting out,” says Golembiewski, who got his first restaurant job at 16 as a dishwasher at the Big Boy chain in Michigan.
So instead of returning to work last week, Golembiewski resigned, putting an end to his long restaurant career and to the unemployment checks that have provided him a cushion to think about what he’ll do next.
The great migration to remote work in the pandemic has also had a profound impact on how people think about when and where they want to work.
“We have changed. Work has changed. The way we think about time and space has changed,” says Tsedal Neeley, a professor at Harvard Business School and author of the book Remote Work Revolution: Succeeding From Anywhere. Workers now crave the flexibility given to them in the pandemic — which had previously been unattainable, she says.
Alyssa Casey, a researcher for the federal government, had often thought about leaving Washington, D.C., for Illinois, to be close to her parents and siblings. But she liked her job and her life in the city, going to concerts, restaurants and happy hours with friends.
With all of that on hold last year, she and her husband rented a house in Illinois just before the holidays and formed a pandemic bubble with their extended family for the long pandemic winter.
It has renewed her desire to make family a priority. She and her husband are now sure they want to stay in Illinois, even though she may have to quit her job, which she’s been doing remotely.
“I think the pandemic just allowed for time,” she says. “You just have more time to think about what you really want.”
Why does God want to offer us rest? What does rest do for us? What does it mean to refresh? Take a breather.
I think like this pandemic it gives you time- time to think. Time to reflect- reflect on your life, your relationships, how you want to spend your time.
I grew up with 2 financial advisors as parents- it is ingrained in me that work allows you to live in this world. And yet- as much as I love my job- most of my “living” comes from outside of work.
I am refreshed when I’m with my family- spending mornings drinking coffee and making weird breakfast concoctions with Jon. When we play hide and seek with my dog, Bryz in the dorms now that the students have left or that we figured out Bryz would play in the shower all day if we let him.
Rest might look different for different people- for me, it looks more like play. I don’t play enough so this is refreshing- this reminds me about what truly makes me happy- play.
All those in the NPR article seemed to be yearning for more time to play- with their kids, with their families, with their meals, with their pets, with their gardens.
Most people in our country don’t use all their vacation days. I don’t think it’s because they love their jobs so much. I think it’s because they forgot how to play.
There’s this scene in the movie stepmom that has always stayed with me- it’s a very sad movie- I’m a sucker for them. But the parents are divorced and the dad has a new younger girlfriend and the mom found out she is dying from cancer- she has 2 kids about 8 and 12. Once she realizes she doesn’t have much time left- she wants to spend her remaining time making memories with her kids. One night she wakes up her 12-year-old daughter in the middle of the night and they go horseback riding in the dark. It’s this beautiful scene of play- an unexpected, delightful play between a mom and a daughter.
I really don’t want to have to learn I’m dying to understand the importance of play. I don’t want to wait until I get a fatal diagnosis to reflect on what’s important to me.
I want to rest, reflect, refresh continually so I can remember to play.
You are all probably like oh no we hired someone who doesn’t care about work ethic- I care a great deal about work ethic but I believe you can have a good work ethic and care about what you want out of life at the same time. Our culture tells us you have to pick- but that’s a foolish dichotomy. You don’t have to pick. You have the power to do both. God’s kingdom is one of abundance- not scarcity.
You can eat well, play well, work well and rest well.
I don’t even need to ask who needs rest- the answer is a resounding yes.
But how do you rest? What does rest look like for you?
Is it setting aside daily quiet time? Going away on a girls’ weekend? Is it doing something silly like waking your kids up in the middle of the night to do something fun? Is it spending more money on recreating your favorite meal- you could get really crazy and make fancy cocktails with it too. Me giving you permission sure won’t do anything if God giving you permission doesn’t do anything- you need to give yourself permission to do this. What’s stopping you from giving yourself permission to rest, to play, to simply stop achieving?